Are you Too Comfortable – or Too Challenged? Finding that Elusive Worklife Balance

improving your work lifeThe average person will spend 90 thousand hours at work over their lifetime. How are you spending that time? Are you joyfully living your passion, in total flow with the creativity of life? Or does the thought of work fill you with dread?

What is your body telling you?

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If it does, then your body is telling you that there is something off. You are out of balance and this needs your awareness.

It can be easy to ignore and suppress the loud and clear messages that your body is sending you. We all buy into beliefs like …

“It’s normal to hate your job – everyone does!“

“This is what I need to do to survive”

“This is how society works”

Sound familiar?

Are these commonly held beliefs really helping you to live a life full of passion and creativity? If not, what can be done to challenge these beliefs?

Challenge Vs Comfort

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Life strives for balance and harmony. If you’re dissatisfied with your work, check in to see: where are you on the scale between challenge and comfort?

Maybe your answer is, Work is too damn challenging!

Are you constantly stressed and filled with anxiety? Do you struggle to keep up with the mountain of emails and presentations?

Maybe the sheer amount of meetings, conference calls and deadlines push you beyond your limits. Or you might feel that work is taking over every area of your life so that you don’t have time or energy for friends, family or intimate relationships. Are fun and relaxation always on the bottom of the list in your life?

If this is the case, then there is something very wrong going on. The reality is, life is off balance and if you continue in this way, you are very likely to burn out. Your body is simply not designed for continuously high levels of stress all day, every day.

Who are you doing it for?

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Now is your chance to take a step back from the edge and make room for more comfort and safety in your life. You need breathing space. You have given yourself away to your boss, your client, your colleagues. You’ve become lost in the needs and demands of others.

It’s time to take back control and learn about what’s really important to you in your life. You can do this by coming back to yourself and centring yourself.

Give yourself space and downtime to listen to your nervous system. This might mean taking a weekend away from it all or simply building some reflection time into your day. Ask yourself: is what you are doing to yourself really the right thing to do? If it’s not, then who are you doing it for?

Take the time to slow down and check in with yourself as often as you can. That way, you’ll get the answers you need about where to go and what to do next.

It’s about learning how to listen to your body, the true authority on how to live your life. Learn how to gain clarity and truth in yourself.

Practice listening to your internal intuition. Find out what your boundaries are – what you want and don’t want, what you like and don’t like – and experiment with communicating your needs from a place of clarity and authenticity. Learn to trust your voice and yourself.

Stuck in the comfort zone?

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Maybe you have the opposite problem and you find yourself bored with the safety and predictability of your work. You might be wondering where the life, passion and vitality have gone. You find yourself firmly stuck in the deadness of your comfort zone.

If this is how you feel, it’s time to bring the spark back into your life. What is stopping you from taking risks? What’s stopping you from going out there and going for what you really want in life?

It’s enough to just be honest with yourself. You don’t have to beat yourself up; simply become aware of your fears, self-judgment and insecurities and love yourself through the process. Once negative self-beliefs are seen, then you can start the work to go into them and confront them. This work takes courage, commitment, time and plenty of self-compassion.

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Self-development is vital to living a happy, fulfilled life. If you don’t look at these parts of yourself, they will continue to fester and hold you back from finding your passion in life. Apathy is a very toxic emotion. There is no life energy behind it; it keeps you dead inside, unable to move. Life needs energy, fire, passion, challenge and a leap of faith.

Tune in and listen

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Where are you right now in the balance between challenge and comfort, between Yin (inward) and Yang (outward) energy? Life needs both. Tune in and listen to your body. Do you need rest or do you need energy?

Grow and cultivate what you need in your life. Your body knows: listen to it. Move towards balance and harmony.

“Life is a balance between rest and movement” – Osho

Shivani Ottaway is a writer, facilitator, event coordinator and promoter at Osho Leela, having spent 10 years travelling and working for corporate America. She now dedicates her life to personal and spiritual development and endeavours to help others on the same path.


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